Making Friends as a (Sober) Adult

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2023 |
Volume 2,
Issue 3

Making Friends as a (Sober) Adult

Making friends as an adult can be difficult particularly when making major life changes and looking for a new tribe to share them with. The good news is it’s not impossible! Sarah Olsen, founder of Put It Down Lifestyle, shares her strategies for finding friendships with like-minded people who will enrich the next stages of your life.

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ll right, let’s get real. Making friends as grown women can be a wild ride, especially when we put down the booze and face life with clear eyes and a bit more wisdom. No more hiding behind alcohol-induced confidence or getting hammered just to hang out with someone you don’t really like. Those days are gone and along with them the crutch we relied on to fuel our friendships. The struggle is real, but fear not, it’s so worth it. Not having friendships blurred by alcohol means we can form some kickass real connections and truly discern who’s matching our vibe—life’s too short to spend our time with folks who aren’t our people. So yes it’s worth it, but I didn’t say it was easy. I’m going to share with you some of the things I’ve learned to navigate those cringe-worthy moments and come out with real connection and meaningful friendships.

 

EMBRACE THE AWKWARDNESS

We’ve all been there —looking around a networking event or a social gathering, feeling like a fish out of water. There’s that uncomfortable moment when you have to go up to a stranger or want to fill the (very loud) silence in a conversation when no one knows what to say. Instead of cringing during those uncomfortable moments and wanting to run and hide, embrace them! Awkwardness is a part of life and going with the flow not only can ease your discomfort, but it will ease others’ as well. That’s right, they are likely feeling the same way. My husband asked a great question when I was describing the awkwardness of these situations: “Why do you feel responsible for filling the silence in this situation?” He’s right, it doesn’t always have to be my job. Now I just sit with it and let someone else take the reins, or at the very least relax until the right words present themselves. Don’t let those uncomfortable moments prevent you from being you. Trust me, showing your genuine self, even in awkward times, will attract those who appreciate your realness.

 

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